Thursday, December 27

不再

比一個人還更一個人的感覺大概是這樣吧
如果defence mechanism正運作
可能有一天不會再說話
大家都高興大笑的時候去遠處的角落看看
她正在一個唱歌找尋平安的叮嚀
她正獨個兒在逛街找尋可購買的安樂

大家都過得好嗎
沒有像去年一樣祝賀大家
好嗎
快樂過嗎

Saturday, December 22

defence mechanism

Level 2 Defence Mechanisms
These mechanisms are often present in adults and more commonly present in adolescence. These mechanism lessen distress and anxiety provoked by threatening people or by uncomfortable reality. People who excessively use such defences are seen as socially undesirable in that they are immature, difficult to deal with and seriously out of touch with reality. These are the so-called "immature" defences and overuse almost always lead to serious problems in a person's ability to cope effectively. These defences are often seen in severe depression, personality disorders. In adolescence, the occurrence of all of these defences is normal.
These include:
Fantasy: Tendency to retreat into fantasy in order to resolve inner and outer conflicts
Projection: Projection is a primitive form of paranoia. Projection also reduces anxiety by allowing the expression of the undesirable impulses or desires without becoming consciously aware of them; attributing one's own unacknowledged unacceptable/unwanted thoughts and emotions to another; includes severe prejudice, severe jealousy, hypervigilance to external danger, and "injustice collecting". It is shifting one's unacceptable thoughts, feelings and impulses within oneself onto someone else, such that those same thoughts, feelings, beliefs and motivations as perceived as being possessed by the other.
Hypochondriasis: The transformation of negative feelings towards others into negative feelings toward self, pain, illness and anxiety
Passive aggression: Aggression towards others expressed indirectly or passively
Acting out: Direct expression of an unconscious wish or impulse without conscious awareness of the emotion that drives that expressive behavior

Level 3 Defence Mechanisms
These mechanisms are considered
neurotic, but fairly common in adults. Such defences have short-term advantages in coping, but can often cause long-term problems in relationships, work and in enjoying life when used as one's primary style of coping with the world.
These include:
Displacement: Defence mechanism that shifts sexual or aggressive impulses to a more acceptable or less threatening target; redirecting emotion to a safer outlet; separation of emotion from its real object and redirection of the intense emotion toward someone or something that is less offensive or threatening in order to avoid dealing directly with what is frightening or threatening
Dissociation: Temporary drastic modification of one's personal identity or character to avoid emotional distress; separation or postponement of a feeling that normally would accompany a situation or thought.
Intellectualization: A form of isolation; concentrating on the intellectual components of a situations so as to distance oneself from the associated anxiety-provoking emotions; separation of emotion from ideas; thinking about wishes in formal, affectively bland terms and not acting on them; avoiding unacceptable emotions by focusing on the intellectual aspects
Reaction Formation: Converting unconscious wishes or impulses that are perceived to be dangerous into their opposites; behavior that is completely the opposite of what one really wants or feels; taking the opposite belief because the true belief causes anxiety. This defence can work effectively for coping in the short term, but will eventually break down.
Repression: Process of pulling thoughts into the unconscious and preventing painful or dangerous thoughts from entering consciousness; seemingly unexplainable naivete, memory lapse or lack of awareness of one's own situation and condition; the emotion is conscious, but the idea behind it is absent
Sublimation: Transformation of negative emotions or instincts into positive actions, behavior, or emotion; acting out unacceptable impulses in a socially acceptable way; refocusing of psychic energy away from negative outlets to more positive ones; sublimation is the process funneling the unacceptable into social useful achievements. Sublimation is instrumental to developing culture and civilization. Psychoanalysts often refer to sublimation as the only truly successful defence mechanism.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defense_mechanism

Wednesday, December 19

day dreaming

沿著你背影
遂場夢搜畫
小心你的神情被攝下
只想驗證像你的戀愛家
其時脈搏急促過吧
就算剎那芳華 過眼煙霞
重重迷霧視野蓋著雪花
曖昧 純屬我虛構吧
難道心動還會假
曾經 發生過感情
發生過不能推翻的許多事情
呼天不應 還是有一秒溫馨
為我去指証 發生過感情
發生過不能假裝的一些反應
無法經營 難道你敢說只因已亂性
曾經 發生過感情
發生過不能推翻的許多事情
叫天不應 留著記憶裡風景
為我去指証 發生過感情
發生過不能假裝的一些反應
無法經營 原來你在不確定時候 已盡慶
沿著你背影 遂場夢搜畫
盡情讓空想 進化

Tuesday, December 4

話兒

好耐無見的viv說她現在都
'always speechless in front of crowds.'
我說 ' you are not speechless,
you actaully speak with your eyes, just don't want to speak out.'
現在我們都以靜制動學習說對的話
接受正確的話兒
打出和閱覽正確的字詞
今晚我和christy談天
和工作伙伴談天


真的, 人貴自知記住保持淡淡然

Monday, December 3

蚊子



牠叮著這裡一整晚
我告訴林哥以為這是facebook上的icon


哈哈哈哈
由我9:00開始直到現在1:14
what are u doing here?
knock knock.




糧餉

有幾樣物品很想擁有
1/ i.t. boots, black leather military style
2/ zara biker
3/ lomo Diana+camera
4/ books fm pageone
5/ pj harvey 's album
6/ 美芝garment
7/ sammi's cheng concert dvd
8/ little xmas gift for everyone
9/ sushi dinner with tomi
10/ nice hair cut